Guys and Girls...

.....Relationships, and boundaries.


I have the desire to save my romantic love, and physical intimacy for my future husband.

But that doesn't mean I can't have relationship/friendship with guys in my "single" life.
The desire to have a healthy, biblical friendship with the opposite gender is highly uncommon in our culture, but, I know that it is possible to have relationships without "paring off onto an exclusive, romantic realm."

We need to cultivate our hearts towards a respectful, protecting love for each other. Also, set boundaries, not just for others, but for ourselves.

I know that when boundaries are set our natural reaction is to see how close we can get to the line without actually crossing over it. But, as Christians we should think opposite right?!


I am currently reading a book called "Extreme Romance" by Jesse & Heidi Jost. (Such a good book! I highly encourage everyone read it!) And in a chapter titled "Build Healthy Non-Romantic Relationships" i came across this quote......."When you are not blinded by infatuation or feeling the pressure to impress a certain someone, you can find a delicious freedom to enjoy healthy relationships with other young people. You can inspire each other towards godliness, rather than dragging each other down by defrauding and distracting."


YES! And as brothers and sisters in Christ we have a responsibility to protect each other right?! As well as put other's needs above our own.


So......Guys, you need to realize that your job is to be a protector, not a stealer of hearts. Learn to treat each girl like you would your own mother or sister. You need to learn to be sensitive to the emotions and vulnerability of the girls around you! Don't toy with our hearts by flattery, flirtatious teasing, caring touch.

This doesn't mean you have to ignore girls or act in a cold manner towards them, rather be friendly and cordial. Treat each girl with gentleness and kindness, the way you would want other men to treat your future wife. (1 Thessalonians 4:3-6)"For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God; that no one transgress and wrong his brother in this matter, because the Lord is an avenger in all these things, as we told you beforehand and solemnly warned you."


Girls, your job is to be respectful of the men in your life! That means inspiring them towards purity by dressing modestly! This is HUGE! God designed men to be "turned on" at the sight of woman's body. This is part of the gift of sex. Men are very visual and it is a huge stumbling block to our brothers in Christ when we choose to be careless and reveling. (1 Peter 3:3) "Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes."

But, modesty does not only apply to what you wear, but also how you speak, and how you act! (Proverbs 11:22) "Like a gold ring in a pig's snout is a beautiful woman who shows no discretion." Society teaches young women that they need to be fashionable, and provocative in their appearance, as well as in their speech. Girls are encouraged to be loud, obnoxious flirtatious, and manipulative.


For the sake of those around you and for your own protection, be careful not to fall into the patterns of "the world" by dressing and acting in a sensual way.


Over all, guys and girls, remember these verse... (Proverbs 4:23) "Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life."


( Philippians 2:3-4) "Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others."


just something for you to think about!


Blessings <3